THE BOOK OF REMEMBRANCESKITĀB AL-ADHKĀR · Imām an-Nawawī
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Chapter 129

Those visiting graveyards should discourage those they see weeping from being distraught at the graveside and tell them to be patient and discourage them from doing other things which the law forbids

Remembrance 1
WE RELATE FROM the Ṣaḥīḥs of al-Bukhārī and Muslim from Anas Honorific symbol, who reported that the Prophet Honorific symbol passed by a woman who was weeping by a grave. He told her: “Fear Allah and have patience.” [1].
WE RELATE FROM the Sunans of Abū Dāwūd, an-Nasā’ī and Ibn Mājah with a ḥasan isnād from Bashīr ibn Ma‘bad—who is better known as Ibn al-Khaṣāṣiyyah—Honorific symbol who said: “While we were walking with the Prophet Honorific symbol he saw a man walking between graves while wearing sandals. He said: ‘You with the sandals! Take off your sandals’” [2].and he cited the hadith in full.
I say: ‘sandal’ (sibtiyyah) is a sandal (na‘l) with no hair on it, and it is written with a kasrah on the sīn and a sukūn on the bā’.
The Ummah are unanimous that it is mandatory to command good and to forbid evil. The evidences for this are in the Book and the well-known Sunnah. And Allah knows best.

References

[1] Al-Bukhārī (1283) and Muslim (926).
[2] Abū Dāwūd (3230), with a slight addition to its wording, an-Nasā’ī (4/296), and Ibn Mājah (1068).